Yesterday we met with Dr. H for a follow-up to our 1st IVF cycle. You think someone would know you a little better, being involved in a life changing experience with you, not to mention accepting thousands of dollars from you...but that wasn't the case. He's a nice person, but it was clear he has too many patients to keep us all straight. A little disheartening. Plus we felt like we were hurried a long. Our appointment was supposed to be 1/2 hour and we were lead out of his office in 15 minutes and sent to an assistant to discuss future cycle dates. All this after waiting 1/2 hour to see him. We've felt a difference ever since the day they transferred our embryos. They got our money and checked us off their list...but we didn't go away.
Thank goodness for most of the nurses, is all I can say. They are wonderful, kind and really take time to make you feel like they care about you, individually, and what you're going through.
So what's next??
The doctor said there really isn't anything they could have done differently with our last cycle. Maybe placing the embryos lower in the uterus would help them avoid floating toward the tubes?? He's not sure, but would try it next time. Also, the chances of a 2nd ectopic IVF-related pregnancy went up from 2% to 5%, now that I've had one. Dr. H said he thinks its unlikely it would happen again. (but really, who can predict??)
We had a lot to think about after we left. As we started considering dates for a 2nd cycle it all started coming back to us. This process really does take over your life. EVERYTHING revolves around it. The enormity of it all began to sink in. Woah.
Rod and I have decided to wait a few months before jumping back in. The toll all of this took on me physically is huge. I'm still trying to get back to where I started. And emotionally, we just barely ended the long nightmare of the ectopic pregnancy last week. Give - me - a - moment.
Part of me wants to jump in and start because - why wait for what you really want for your life? But another part of me knows this road and knows how much strength you need to start it. It's time to build up the strength AND during the two months we wait - we will try for a baby on our own. Wouldn't that be the unbelievable dream??!
Possible IVF #2 cycle start - May
Current moto: Building Strength!
7 comments:
oh shannon, why can't doctors have a little heart? do they not realize the business they are in? people look up to them for answers, miracles, help... why can't they play their part, and have a little sympathy, kindness, warmness, patience, and TIME. what a bummer you were hurried out after 15 min and thousands of dollars.
that would be so wonderful getting pregnant on your own. we think of you guys often. miss you!! maybe you need a little sunny beach break? HB is always calling your name!!! :)
oh and p.s. i love the new pic of you and rod at the top. :)
OH wow! I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through and for the doctor to be less than personal makes it even worse! I hope the 2nd season goes better!!!
We are hoping to get up there for Thanksgiving for sure and possibly in June, but not sure about June yet. But we are already saving for our trip over Thanksgiving. Miss you too!!! I hope i'll get to see you while we are there!
That sounds like a good plan to give yourself and Rod a 'recovery' period! I'm sorry that the doc rushed you out...hope your next visit goes much better!
It is so hard to not rush through everything when you want something so badly. Enjoy "building strength" and hope you are feeling great.
I am sorry to hear about your experience. I am glad that you have each other and waiting a few months to gain strength is a positive thing. May the spring weather, flowers blooming and birds chirping renew you both as you prepare to start again.
Shannon, I've followed your pregnancy journey from a distance for awhile. Your courage and perseverance is truly admirable. Thanks for sharing with us. Sarah and I wish you the best of luck as you start your second cycle!
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